Oh breastfeeding, The things I now love and use to hate about you. It truly is a relationship of crazy proportions and expectations. As you know (because I’m not afraid to speak my mind on this) I 100% support breastfeeding and it’s benefits, but if you ever plan to do it or plan to support someone who does it, you will need to mentally, physically and emotionally prepare yourself for it. The truth about breastfeeding is; you’re really going to endure blood, sweat and tears and yes, sometimes all at the same time.
While I had decided way before I was pregnant that I would breastfeed, I never knew all the complications that came along with it. I thought it would be easy and beautiful and that everything would just magically work wonderfully. I’m not really trying to share my experience in too much detail, because I feel like people who want to know can just ask me personally, but if I could go back in time and tell “old me” what “present me” knows now about all the breastfeeding hacks, and things that worked best, I would have saved myself so many rough days. With much learned from those rough days, I decided to compile a list of tips you will probably find beneficial to know about breastfeeding, as well as products you must have and information you’ll be so glad you know about when things get tough during your breastfeeding journey. There will be days when you’re ready to quit, and when you may feel like everything is going wrong, but support and being informed is what kept me going and I hope to be that light to someone else. I will try to make this as informative as possible without being too opinionated or wordy. I’ll do my best to provide links for the products I’ve used as well as websites for anything else beneficial.
1. Nursing bras and clothes: Target is pretty good for this I went all the way up to a size 36DDD and they had a bra that fit me as well as several affordable tops, tanks and sleep wear. (Also target is the best for anything baby) Poshmark is also a great place to look for gently used nursing clothes and bras. Your nursing bra is going to be your best friend because all of your other bras (and practically your whole wardrobe) are going to be useless, so make sure you get some staple BF clothes. https://www.target.com/p/women-s-nursing-full-coverage-bra-gilligan-o-malley-153/-/A-50319158?preselect=50186729#lnk=sametab
2. Breast-pads: okay so I leaked like crazy and especially for the first 4 months after baby was born, a smart way to go it reusable breast pads and the reason why is because they are so much more comfortable. Bamboobies is a great company to purchase them from (soft bamboo fabric) and they often have great deals on them (follow them on Instagram). Medela also sells reusable breast pads. Disposable work just as well as reusable, but for me personally they just don’t feel as comfortable.
3. Coconut oil: FOR. EVERY. SINGLE. THING! Cracked nipple: coconut oil. Thrush: Coconut Oil. Diaper Rash: coconut oil. Lubricant for your pump parts so milk flows easier: coconut oil. The most universal product ever! Antibacterial and your new BFF!
4. A 32 fl oz. water bottle, canister, cup or anything you can think of so that you’re drinking at least half of your body weight in ounces of water a day. You honestly need to drink more than that because you’re going to be so thirsty while breastfeeding, always have water before you start nursing or pumping. (Again target is your bff, hit her up)
5. Nipple shield: Many lactation consultants will insist you avoid this, but this helped me tremendously and what actually help my breastfeeding journey. So just incase your baby has latch issues, consider getting a nipple shield. I had no idea this existed until someone (My awesome Doula) brought me one when my baby wouldn’t latch well on my nipple, it worked some days and some days it did not. When my baby finally started to breastfed he weaned off the shield fairly quickly, but the shield actually works and some moms rely on them for much longer than just the first few weeks.
https://www.target.com/p/medela-contact-nipple-shield-24mm/-/A-10953414
6. Hakka: This is the absolute most amazing item for new moms! It’s basically a milk catcher. While you nurse on one side you let this thing catch the leaking milk from the other side. This will help you build a stash early and quickly. Amazon has plenty of different brands of these, read reviews before you buy though, you will want to make sure the product is good quality.
NatureBond Silicone Manual Breast Pump Breastfeeding Milk Saver Suction | BONUS Pump Stopper, Lid, Pouch, AirTight Vacuum Sealed in Hardcover Gift Box. BPA Free & 100% Food Grade Silicone https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01LZ2ZVCY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_JwW.AbMBSHGSX
7. Breast pump: electric or manual, it is recommended for moms to wait a least until 4-6 weeks before you start pumping so that your baby regulates your milk flow and you don’t over produce and get a clogged duct or mastitis. I pumped literally the first day EJ was born, but again, he didn’t latch well and I was determined to feed him colostrum…and I’m so glad I was able to all thanks to the pump. Check with your insurance before you buy a pump to see if they will cover the cost and make sure you get your pump as soon as possible. You’ll want to make sure your parts are sanitized and you know how to use the pump before baby comes, you never know when you will need it. I’ve heard spectra is a great brand, I personally used Medela, but wish I would of went with a spectra. Also a manual pump is great to have on hand for emergencies or when you’re on the go.
8. Duckbills for your pump: some pump parts just don’t work as well as they should and if you’re like me and had to get a very basic pump, research items to improve your pump. Duckbills create a tens times better suction, so you get more milk in less time pumping. Amazon; again if she already wasn’t, she’s your new other best friend!
NeneSupply 5 Count Duckbill Valves Use with Spectra S1 Spectra S2 9 Plus Breastpumps and Medela Pump In Style Symphony Not Original Spectra S2 Accessories Replaces Spectra Valve and Medela Valve https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BYNFVDS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_axW.Ab7V7E0VD
9. Pump flange size: Every woman’s body is different and this is why I love amazon! After going through 3 different flange sizes, I finally found the perfect size flange that fit my nipple. My milk flow has been excellent ever since making sure I have good pump parts and correct sizes for my body.
10. Research formula: in the event you need to formula feed, research and buy one or two canisters of formula that you think would be best. Seriously…please research though, many formulas first ingredient is sugar which I personally didn’t realize until I started reading labels. My personal opinion; I believe the reason so many children struggle with having a healthy non-processed diet later on in life is due to being fed sugar-filled formula, they become so accustomed to sugar that they can’t live without it. I’m a pure example. GIVE ME ALL THE SUGAR!
My formula of choice was Enfamil Enspire https://www.enfamil.com/feeding-my-baby/enspire-by-enfamil
11. Gentian violet: one word. THRUSH. Yup that’s right, yeast on your nipple…oh and possibly in your baby’s mouth. This nifty little product will help kill it. Messy as heck, and a little embarrassing, but worth it especially since it kills the thrush within 3 days. You can look up the “how to use” on Pinterest.
12. Baby Probiotic: Sooo important! Your baby’s gut health is a little blah when they are first born. With their new tummy out in the world and basically taking in everything you are (remember baby in a sense eats what you eat) you’ll want to help keep them regulated, as well as help them avoid things like thrush or upset stomach. I used one from my chiropractor that worked great and easy to give to baby.
13. Mommy probiotic: This will also help prevent and fight off thrush as well. A healthy gut tends to also help keep other parts of your body healthy as well. Keep in mind whatever you eat can affect you baby, it’s always good to try and avoid: sugar, dairy and processed foods during the first 2 months after your baby is born and especially if you’re breastfeeding. Also was able to get this from my chiropractor
14. Chiropractic care: I know not everyone agrees with this, but EJ benefited greatly from gentle chiropractic care and I believe it was a major key in his ability to breastfed the first time he was adjusted, he pooped and slept like a perfect little angel. Gradually after each adjustment (remember birth is traumatic) he felt comfortable to breastfed.
15. Oatmeal: for me it has Proven to help create regular milk production. Make cookies. (I have a killer recipe if you want it) Overnight oats. Plain oatmeal. The stuff is a godsend when you feel your supply is low and need a quick boost.
16. Nursing cover: I know not everyone is a fan of these and well I’m not really particularly either, they are hot and once your baby reaches a certain age they usually refuse to be covered and pull it off and the next thing you know you’re flashing the whole world, however, for new moms and their newborns this will honestly help you get into the swing of things. My personal experience breastfeeding out in public was so scary, my cover honestly helped me get comfortable as I was trying to figure out breastfeeding. I now often wear oversized tops so that when I do nurse I’m still covered. I’ve even had to use it to pump in a car once. When you have a new born, your hormones are pretty much out of whack and if you’re not quite comfortable feeding out in public, a cover will be your protector and security blanket, literally. The brand I use it infantino, but again bamboobies also has a great cover.
17. Nursing pillows…basically any pillow: Yes, your arm will get tired and yes this is worth the money. Also becomes a great tool for tummy time!
18. Legendairy milk products: If you find your supply just won’t keep up and you’re in desperate need of a supply boost, please consider taking a supplement that has good reviews, is organic and is without fenugreek. Although fenugreek does work for some women’s milk supply, it can also have a reverse affect. Legendairy milk has helped me so much and I’m very thankful for their products.
https://www.legendairymilk.com
19. Pumping bra: You honestly don’t have time to sit there and hold your pump parts while you pump! Pumping hands free is so important especially if you’re trying to tend to other things. If you can’t afford to buy one, use an old sports bra and cut out two small holes where your nipple would be and wallah! You have a pumping bra.
https://www.target.com/p/medela-easy-expression-bustier/-/A-52670221?preselect=51752717#lnk=sametab
20. Working mom? That’s great, however it can be super hard, but if you’re able to take pump breaks at work, take advantage of them. Research the laws for your state and fight for your rights. I’ve been mostly (not always) lucky with having support from colleagues and supervisors when it came to pumping at work and I’m so thankful for that. Don’t let anyone bully you or question the way you decide to feed your baby.
21. Lastly and most defiantly not least, (because I’m sure there is things I forgot) SUPPORT! Gosh I’m telling you, if I was not supported the way that I was on this journey, I would of never continued. My child is one; and I am happy to say he still breastfeeds and I’m cool with it and it’s pretty much routine, simple and like we’ve been doing it forever. Now the journey to this beautiful relationship took so much out of me, but I learned so much. I went through some really hard times; Thrush, mastitis, clogged ducts, cracked nipples, bleeding nipples, feeding with a nipple shield, latch issues, formula issues…the list goes on, but we made it. We made it only because I was always supported and vouched for. I’m so blessed because of that. We are content and comfortable and I have to say; I waited so long for this journey and now here we are, pure bliss. I hope only that every mother can feel that while feeding her baby, no matter how she feeds him/her.
My final bit of lovingly advice: If you need help, If you need support, please ask someone who is knowledgeable…ask someone who won’t judge you or make you feel uncomfortable. Whether it be your doula, midwife, lactation consultant or even a close friend or family member who supports you. Avoid social media for advice because that just makes you bait for social media trolls. Trust that there is always light at the end of the tunnel and try to enjoy it all.
With love,
Nicole xo